Are you really that desperate to achieve success in your professional or business life, to lose it all in your personal life? Even who you really are, emotionally? I know. You would definitely say no. Am I right?
You already know that success is not a destination, but a journey. Although you do know that there are mighty successful people in the world who are the most petrified ones, petrified of their success? Hey! I’m not saying it. I’m not even an entrepreneur; forget the successful one.
Pawel Jonczy, the CEO & Founder of 3Lives Transformation, is the one who is a successful entrepreneur, and he is saying it. You must believe him when he says that successful people are often more afraid of success than failure in their personal lives, fearing the risk that they will not be able to sustain this success as they lack the necessary know-how. Because he speaks from his personal experience.
Over 13 years ago, Mr Jonczy felt like losing everything he loved. The business’s success was no longer the source of joy and pride because he could not share it with his beloved. He felt misunderstood and betrayed, rejecting the fact that his ego was the only reason for that.
“Do you know that one out of three successful entrepreneurs between the ages of 35 and 55 are losing pride in their business success? They lack fulfilment in their personal lives, and business success no longer brings them happiness.”
Mr Jonczy was precisely there, and it took him 13 years to find out this simple truth. “Life has three dimensions: business, family and Me. I need to balance the three of them, as each is equally important in achieving happiness. Each requires my commitment in terms of physical, mental and emotional presence.”
That’s His Life and Professional Philosophy
Today, as the pillar of 3Lives, there are certain core values and principles that guide Mr Jonczy’s approach to business transformation and personal growth coaching. According to him, “To find peace in our lives, we must strive for internal harmony, which brings clarity to life choices and decisions.”
The foundation for that is core values that are the same across all three lives. Many people believe they can maintain different sets of values in their businesses and personal lives. This creates internal conflict that results in anxiety and, subsequently, the deterioration of physical and mental health.
The values that guide the 3Lives approach are integrity, respect and trust. “At 3Lives, we can only help people with whom these values resonate and who possess a growth mindset. It lays the foundation for our commitment to empowering entrepreneurs and businesses to achieve sustainable success that is embedded in their values and aligned with a higher purpose.”
In his journey of transforming from a tough leader to a compassionate one, some key realizations or experiences contributed to Mr Jonczy’s transformation. He reflects, “From an early age, we are subject to societal programming engraving common lies into our minds. Many of these beliefs limit our ability to achieve happiness in life. Most entrepreneurs believe that business success requires personal sacrifice.”
He wants to prove that…
Business Success and A Thriving Personal Life Can Coexist
For most of his professional life, Mr Jonczy operated on the level of Pride. This was the primary emotion that drove him and helped him to achieve success. Believing that his team was the best, he was the best, and the sky was not the limit, Mr Jonczy pushed for new success and another breakthrough in business. It was evident to everybody who met him. He accepted the personal compromises it required and excused himself, genuinely believing that he was doing all of that for the sake of his family.
After years, Mr Jonczy found himself on the verge of losing everything that he loved, his family and pride in business success. “Success can only bring joy when you share it with the ones you love.” He learned that “Pride, so much admired in our society, is a negative emotion that blinds us with our Ego. Sooner or later, it makes us hit the ceiling far below the sky we aspire to reach.”
That’s why, he adds, “Sustainable success requires, first and foremost, Courage”:
- Courage to face hard facts about the business and your personal life.
- Courage to build the business aspiring to contribute to the world, having a higher purpose.
- Courage to always stay within integrity, in line with your core values, in business and personal life.
- Courage to face and overcome the limiting beliefs that crash you and build on empowering ones that enrich you.
- Courage to trust yourself and others, as entrepreneurship is not a lonely journey.
- Courage to prioritize your top life roles and set clear boundaries as an act of self-respect and respect towards others.
To get that Courage, you surely want someone like Mr Jonczy and 3Lives. As he wrote in his book ‘8 Steps to a Happy Life – The Successful Entrepreneur’s Journey,’ his organization ‘3Lives Transformation’ is a result of personal desperation and hopelessness.
Find Out Your Source of Courage
Mr Jonczy’s courage came after he faced the biggest challenge of his life. He was privileged to be part of the board of directors responsible for building a brand-new factory for a global Skin Care business. It had been a so-called “greenfield site,” as they built an entirely new facility on the site of a former small airport. The factory was designed to supply the regions of Europe, the Middle East, and Africa, and they had to hire all management and technical teams. “Hiring and training hundreds of people, constructing buildings, installing equipment, and starting up all the systems have been the biggest challenges of my career so far,” he recalls. It had been a priceless experience shaping the culture of the new, young organization and seeing how it grew and flourished, consistently overdelivering on the goals set for it despite the challenging macroeconomic situation of the 2008 global crisis.
It was the most defining moment of Mr Jonczy’s career. Business-wise, it brought great joy and satisfaction to see what his teams accomplished and how many people outperformed their stretch expectations. On a personal level, it brought about an awakening as he realized how imbalanced his life had become due to a 60–80-hour workweek. And that he can lose his beloved family.
It marked the beginning of his quest to reconcile business success with personal happiness. Since then, Mr Jonczy dedicated himself to years of personal development, encompassing longevity, energy healing, and hypnotherapy.
Developing a Sustainable Success Mindset
Today, by embracing a growth mindset, he developed the routine of daily learning. Every day, he reads a book or listens to an audiobook, and he also reads articles in online magazines that focus on business, management, coaching, and supply chain. He attends seminars and webinars on business digitization, demand sensing, and artificial intelligence, areas in which he’s built expertise over the years and wants to stay current with recent developments. He engages in discussions on the networks he is part of, expanding his knowledge, learning about new trends and sharing his perspective. He connects with his friends, coaches and mentors to get advice, support and coaching.
That’s how, along with his extensive knowledge in leadership, business coaching, and personal development, Mr Jonczy continuously stays at the forefront of industry trends and innovations.
To achieve a sustainable success mindset, he integrates his expertise in energy healing, longevity, fitness, and nutrition into his coaching methodology. Carl Gustav Jung, the renowned Swiss psychiatrist, stated that “A healthy personality is equally balanced between work, play, love, and spirituality.” The 3Lives concept strikes a balance between business, family, and personal needs. It aims to help successful entrepreneurs achieve their dream lives. To live their lives in accordance with their higher purpose and their values.
3Lives coaching methodology helps define what a successful life means, encompassing values, empowering beliefs, and a lasting legacy. “It is a journey of self-discovery that requires us to delve deeply into ourselves, face hard facts, accept them, and let go.” It is an emotionally exhausting exercise that requires a level of understanding of the body’s energy, “Which can either serve us or overwhelm us if not handled properly.” This self-discovery opens the door to physical and mental recovery as well as the mental clarity that helps to manage the toughest challenges.
Finally, the program concludes with best-in-class business management methods, “As our lives are the most essential businesses we must manage with complete professionalism,” insists Mr Jonczy.
Maintaining Your Life’s Equilibrium
He further adds that you, too, can maintain a healthy balance between personal well-being and professional commitments. “Studies show that a person can effectively manage a maximum of 5 roles in life, while most of us try to manage 10, 15 or even more than 20. There are many roles we play in business, in our families, or as individuals.” It is crucial to define the top 5 roles, commit to the related trade-offs and communicate the decision to key stakeholders. However easy it sounds, it is a tough job, “Especially when opening up and being compassionate in communication and alignment with our beloved.” 3Lives teaches how to define it, prioritize it, and communicate it effectively.
Mr Jonczy’s top five life roles, which guide his daily decisions and priorities, are: father, husband, CEO, coach, and steward of his own health—both mind and body. These are his priorities, and they define his life decisions. The key stakeholders who are outside the top 5 are aware of his priorities and the rationale behind them. He considers it a sign of respect for himself and the people who are part of his life. It is better to communicate priorities and stick to them rather than avoid tough decisions, which can lead to a life of permanent overcommitment, unmet expectations, and guilt.
“Turning to our daily routine, discipline helps us develop healthy habits.” Every morning, Mr Jonczy dedicates 60-90 minutes to himself for energy healing, practicing gratitude and forgiveness, letting go, doing physical exercises, and reading books. He says he is always available to discuss, offer a hug, engage in some exercises, or go for a walk with his children. “They are already adults, so I’m blessed they still want to spend time with me. Once a week, my wife and I go out together and dedicate time to ourselves. Every other week, I also meet with my coach and my mentor.”
In all this, Mr Jonczy’s objective is to achieve 70% efficiency for daily routines, 80% for weekly ones, and 90% for less frequent schedules. Applying the same methodology to business and turning repetitive key responsibilities into habits expands available time.
On the Path to Redefine Business Success
Finally, he divulges his long-term vision for 3Lives Transformation, which he accepts is a new concept and a young company. “Our vision is to enable the successful transformation of 100,000 clients and businesses, which in turn will benefit the 100,000 communities they serve. We believe that with our support, our clients will be able to combine a growing, prosperous business and a thriving personal life.”
As he phases out of the corporate world, Mr Jonczy wants 3Lives to accelerate group coaching in addition to individual coaching. The objective of small coaching groups, comprising up to 15 people, is to make transformation sustainable through a support team and partners who facilitate practice. The course concludes with the definition and implementation of a strategy, along with an execution plan. Self-improvement requires external cheering and support.
“To enable 3Lives’ growth in both personal and business areas, we plan to expand into Europe and the Middle East in addition to the currently targeted US market,” he concludes.
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